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How Simple Tasks Like Driving Affect Our Well-Being

by Jay AndrewLeave a Comment on How Simple Tasks Like Driving Affect Our Well-Being

If we think deeply about traffic or negative road experiences we will come to see that it can be labeled as a determinate and revealer of suffering within an individual. A person who at that moment is suffering and or going through some sort of pain will project their being out unto others if he/she is provoked by an external event. For how can it be otherwise? People allow such minuet things to effect their lives. One lousy honk at a person driving who is suffering and they will pull beside you and maliciously stare you down while speeding off eventually with their middle finger seeable through the back window.

I will admit to you all, I use to project my anger out onto others when I would drive ALOT. They’re driving to slow? -Get mad, unnecessarily speak ill upon them for no reason, proceed to pass them up. They cut ME off? -Take it personal, get angry, and proceed to cut them back off. They pull out in slowly in front of me? -Furiously honk, speed up and pass them up while flicking them off. One day I was texting a friend of mine and she could tell through my diction that I was angry and called me out on it. I was angry, and it was all because some older lady was honking unnecessarily at me. She called me out for such behavior and said that I was being unloving. And me being ignorant and not taking responsibility for my unnecessary responses, I quickly denied her conscious advice and told myself she did not know what she was talking about. It took another experience for me to realize that I must control my negative impulses better when I am on the road. One day I was leaving class and was trying to back up out of my parking spot. This community college I went to had their parking in a multi-leveled garage so at certain times it would get very congested. Well, as I waited for a spot to clear open and back up I was not let out by some guy. My impatient self became frustrated and was looking through my back window while cursing him out and flicking him off. This guy was not having it and literally got out of his car and came up to my window screaming at me while insisting that we fight. Although I was not necessarily frightened by him, I was not angry nor reactive enough to get out of my car and physically hit him. Although I did feel an urge to want to give in and start a fight due to his proving insults, I suddenly realized that I caused the whole situation in the first place. The guy finally stopped angrily speaking to me, spat, and walked backed to his car. This event made me realize how easy it is to experience serious ‘road rage’ and how my behavior can quickly determine and trigger others pain and suffering. From that moment forward I told myself I would not be flicking random people off and be more conscious of my actions while I drive. This experience could of ended in another a whole different way if I had been a bit more impulsive and fought the man. I probably would have ended up getting arrested, shot, or even worse killed and would not be here typing this today. Life is so indeterminable and people are very impulsive. Especially people who are deeply in a temporary mode of pain and suffering. These types of people have no problem with fighting or hurting a random stranger like you and I. For people who are more sincere towards other they will still be angry and project that anger out onto the road other drivers, but they are less likely to cause a scene. If you really want to see how well someone such as a friend/ significant other can hold their composer and not let other people’s character dictate and have control over them, watch how they drive. Simple as that. There will be many happenings on the road where the driver’s inner self will be tested and their reactions will tell you a lot about them. For if a person is calm, relaxed, and well grounded how can they be moved by such ignorant actions from others. Such a person won’t even speak or think ill upon others while driving, even though there may seem reason to, their quiescent inner being will not react.

I realize now and have even taken a conscious step forward to try and not be moved by the ignorant driving of others. I will not allow my being to be controlled by another’s negative choice. It is so. We do not even realize that we lose our self for a moment and we let these unconscious drivers take control of our lives. The only true everlasting fix to this problem in society is not enforcing laws or regulations, but to get rid of the pain and the suffering at it’s core. This is on a whooooole ‘nother level of consciousness and requires much more action that just sitting here and typing. I do have faith though that it is possible, not to say when… but I know.. this is possible.

Live How YOU Want to Live

by Jay AndrewLeave a Comment on Live How YOU Want to Live

Hello everyone. Today I would like to briefly write about how many of us, (myself included) can sometimes let the wants and needs of others around us influence our decisions in life too much. There are many different variables and subjective ways to approach and conceive this reality-idea due to every person having different life existences and levels of consciousness. So.. if you can connect with what I am about to write here you already have the necessary means to adapt and change.

Lets briefly go back.. back to our ages of around one through seven years old. During this time of our childhood is when our brain and being is the most susceptible to our environment. We don’t just learn by mommy and daddy telling us not to touch the hot stove, we actually learn more by just simply watching and being around our parent(s)/guardian(s). There is a whole explanation for this but for now this can be proven if we just look at nature and a little bit of science. In nature, young animals will watch the mother animal hunt and track down their prey. The animal learns by simply being in the moment and observing the outside. And for all the materialists out there this can also be proven if you understand the basics of mirror neurons. Okay.. now that we understand that we now can come to the realization that our mind in our early childhood is almost in a hypnotic state of being. Our brain waves are literally in a set mode that makes us susceptible to outside influences. This is when our beliefs, preconceptions, and conditioning develop. And depending on our guardian(s) most us will have very limitative modes of consciousness due to the simple reality of Societal’s deep psychological programming. Now of course all of our lives are not the same and we all have different experiences of trauma and ways we adapt to this trauma determinate. Some of us may have had horrible childhoods while some have not. Either way though, it is not healthy nor beneficial to have a victim-mentality and compare traumas. For the overall feelings and emotions of our negative childhoods can be seen as equal and one in the same, just the experience varies. Sadness is felt as sadness, loneliness is felt as loneliness, insecurity is felt as insecurity. Although most of these experiences are not asked for, we do have the power to choose how we react and adapt to our past and present-moment circumstances. (This statement alone is a very powerful fact and one must understand and embody this in their being) Throughout our child-hood, teen-hood, and even into our early twenties we are told what to do. We are given morals, values, and ethics that have formed the mind we possess now. Most of us are aware of the simple rules and laws, aware of the ‘common courtesy’ ideas, and aware of the ‘rights and wrongs’. Now although of-course these idea-forms are important for a ‘ethical’ society, but they may be very deceiving to the creative individual. Society try’s to make it seem like EVERYONE wants to or should go to college, get the degree, find that perfect lover, purchase that white-picked fenced home, have that beautiful child and live happily ever after. Now to a lot of people this sounds promising, this sounds secure. But to the person who knows for themselves that life has waaaay more to offer they will question and find this forced idea confusing and limiting. For ALLLLL our lives especially our early ages we are told what to do and how to act. We begin to do and say things that we do not want to do or say, and we simultaneously do not do and say the things we truly want to say or do. Reluctance takes over our life. This in effect can create problems with our relationships with others, our jobs, careers, hobbies, free-time, and most importantly ourselves. Life becomes EVEN MORE confusing than it already is!

Let us remember today that nature-reality is not as we think it is. But in a confusing and complementary way it IS what we think it is. Truly, there are no rules here. Truly there are no laws, ethics, morals, values and other limited idea-forms here. What may seem to be justifiable in one circumstance may be completely wicked in another. For the death penalty can be given to a murderer but medals and accolades will be given to soldiers. You possess the power within to live the life you want and become the person you foresee. You set the boundaries in a boundless Universe. And only you can change your current mode of being and environment to what aligns with what you truly want at this moment. Go into the unknown, go into the delight.